Keeping Advent, Advent: Preparing for the Christ Child in the Way we Prepare for our Own Children

As mothers, we know the way pregnancy changes us- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We eat healthy foods, exercise, drink more water, and take vitamins, all in order to provide the best nourishment for the baby growing inside. We absorb books and information on childbirth and parenting so we can feel more mentally prepared to fully enter into our new vocation as mothers. We find ourselves emotional at the stirring of life growing within us, at the thought of soon holding our sweet baby in our arms. We pray often- for a safe delivery and healthy baby, to be good mothers and good examples of faith and love to our child as they grow. We put the whole of our being into preparing for the arrival of our babies, into making sure we are ready to be the best mothers we can be. We don’t want to rush our pregnancies (except for maybe those last few loooong weeks) because we see the beauty of pregnancy in and of itself. We treasure the first glimpse of our baby on the ultrasound, the earliest flutter of movement, the first kick, baby’s hiccups. These little moments prepare our hearts for the big, beautiful moment to come- the moment we snuggle our baby in our arms and our lives truly change forever, for the better.

If pregnancy only lasted a week, we would never feel ready for the glorious changes a new baby brings to our lives. Just so, in rushing the joy of Christmas, as the modern consumer world tries to force us to do, we lose the true meaning of the season. We are surrounded (from the day after Halloween…) by trees, and lights, and celebrations, and wish lists, and while it can be exciting at first, many are burnt out by the time the most joyful day, the birth of Christ, arrives.

So what if we approached Advent in the same way we approached our pregnancies? What if we put as much time and effort into preparing our hearts for the birth of Christ as we do for the birth of our own babies? This is exactly what we are invited to do as Catholics during Advent. We have the gift of an entire season of preparation before Christmas. We are invited to prepare our hearts and minds for the coming of the Christ child. We can walk with Mary to prepare with her for the birth of her son just as we prepare for the births of our own sons and daughters.

Here are few examples of ways to prepare for the coming of the Christ child with the same importance in which we prepare for the coming of our own children:

The Empty Manger

When we are expecting, we put a lot of thought and effort into creating a new space in our homes for our little ones on the way. Often, the nursery is complete long before our due dates, and it serves as a comforting and exciting reminder of what is to come and the beautiful little soul that will soon fill the nursery and our hearts. We can focus on Christ’s coming in a similar way, by having an empty manger displayed in a prominent place in our homes as a continual reminder that we are awaiting His birth. Little ones can join in by being encouraged to do good deeds in return for a piece of straw to add to the manger. Explain to them that the goal should be to make Jesus’ bed as comfortable as possible before He arrives on Christmas day. Just like we want to provide a warm and comfortable space for our new babies, we can provide a special place for Jesus in our homes by serving Him through acts of kindness and love to others.

The Mary Candle

December 8 is the feast of the Immaculate Conception and a special way to commemorate this feast is by placing a candle with a blue ribbon next to a Marian statue or picture. It can then be lit each evening (during mealtime or another communal time) until Christmas, as a reminder of Mary’s yes to God which enabled Jesus’ coming at Christmas. The light can remind us that we are waiting on the Light of the World, just as Mary eagerly awaited His birth, and in just the same way we eagerly await the births of our own children.

Advent Calendar/ Daily Scripture Reading

There are many different options when it comes to Advent calendars, but I would encourage one that includes scripture and/or prayers. This version is great for kids and it’s the one that our family of twelve used while I was growing up. It tells the Christmas story through a series of small booklet ornaments. Each night after dinner we would remain at the table as a family and read the booklet for that day, then it would be placed upon our small Advent tree. It was a beautiful tradition and one that I plan to continue with my own family. For adults, there are many wonderful Catholic Advent books with daily readings and reflections that can help us focus in on Christ and prepare our hearts for His coming. This one from Matthew Kelly is a popular option, and I plan to read this book on the Christmas Story as part of my Advent reading this year. We read countless books and scour the internet to prepare for motherhood. We should spend just as much time each Advent meditating on scripture and studying the biblical Christmas story to prepare for the coming of our King.

Keep a Prayer Journal

The Advent season is a great time to spend more of our day in prayer, and also a great time to approach prayer in other ways than might be typical for us. A prayer journal can be a special way to put our thoughts in writing. It is a newer way of praying for me, and I have been surprised at how much pours out of my heart and onto the page, often things I didn’t even know I was thinking. Another approach to prayer journaling in the Advent season (and anytime) is to read the daily scripture and write your own brief reflection on what you’ve read. During pregnancy, many of us keep journals or write in books such as “Letters to my Baby.” It is a unique and powerful way for us to feel more connected to the life growing within us, but which we cannot see or touch yet. It is also a powerful way for us to feel more connected to our Lord and to share our hearts with our Savior during the Advent season.

These are just a few examples of the many ways we can put more emphasis on Advent this year, in order to make Christmas the truly joyful celebration it is. For more ideas, check out the link below to see what some of my sister bloggers do in their homes. Let’s keep Advent what it is, a time of preparing our hearts and minds for the birth of our Savior (with the same vigor that we prepare for our own little gifts from God) rather than give into the ways of the world which focus only on consumerism and false joy.  The more we prepare to receive Jesus, rather than Santa and presents, the more grace we will receive on Christmas morning- and that is a much greater gift than any we could put on a wish list.



This post is part of the Siena Sisters Blog-hop.  For more posts about Advent click here. Each month we’ll have a new topic from Catholic Women Bloggers. Follow along!

How are you Keeping Advent, Advent? If you have a favorite family tradition or personal practice, please share it in the comments with other readers!

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  1. I absolutely adore the Mary Candle idea!!! Pretty sure that may make its way into tradition this year.

    And, I never thought about the similarity between Advent and pregnancy, but you are spot on. I’ll definitely be mulling that one over the next couple days, leading into Advent!

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